If God Spoke to A.A… He might have said…

“Into your weak and feeble hands I have entrusted a Power beyond your estimate.

To you have been given that which has been denied the most learned of your fellows. Not to scientists or statesman, not to the wives or for I have mothers, not even into My priests and ministers have I given this gift of healing other alcoholics, which I entrust to you. It must be used unselfishly. It carries with it grave responsibility.

No day can be too long, no demands upon your time can be too urgent, no case to pitiable, no task too hard, no effort to great. It must be used with tolerance, for I have restricted its application to no race, no creed and no denomination. Personal criticism you must expect, lack of appreciation will be between yourselves, or your organization whose success depends on numbers, money and position.

These material things are no parts of your creed. The success of material organization comes from the pooling of joint assets; yours from the union of mutual liabilities. Appeal for membership in material organizations is based upon a boastful recital of their accomplishments; you’re on the humble admission of weakness; the motto of successful commercial enterprise is: “He profits most who serves the best.”

The wealth of material organizations, when they take their inventory, is measured by what they have left; yours when you take a moral inventory, by what you have given.

Published by the Cleveland District Office of
Alcoholics Anonymous

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Unity, Diversity, Inclusion

2018 SWRAASA Presentation by Rick W, Area 65, Panel 67 at the 2018 Southwest Regional A.A. Service Assembly (SWRAASA) in Branson, MO on October 6, 2018.

Hello family, my name is Rick, and I’m an alcoholic.  My sobriety date is November 17, 1987 and it’s my honor and privilege to serve as the GSR for the Grapevine Unity Group in Grapevine, TX in the Northeast Texas Area 65.

I want to start off with a blanket statement:  “The capacity of Alcoholics Anonymous to accept change – has been central to its ability to remain relevant.”

So, what does a statement like that really mean?  In short form, it means that we have a responsibility to the future of our Society, it’s trusted servants, it’s members, and it’s potential members – to not only be well-informed about who we really are as a people, but who we wish to become, through supporting & sustaining a Fellowship that reflects the diversity found with in it – in all it’s corners.

The very fabric of success in our 12-Step program is founded on our ability to accept change.  When Bill Wilson gave us his two-word definition of what a Spiritual Experience is on page 567 of our Big Book –“personality change” –in that sentiment alone, we were called to embrace and begin the process of accepting change in our personal lives.  So, I ask you, how is the Fellowship any different?

In Bill’s closing comments at our 1955 Convention in St. Louis, he stated, “Our growth as individuals has depended upon a healthy process of trial and error.  So will our growth as a fellowship.  Such is the universal penalty for the failure to go on growing.  Just as each A.A. must continue to take his moral inventory and act upon it, so must our whole society do if we are to survive and if we are to serve usefully and well.”

Long have we been a group of people that have both embraced change –  AND railed against it at the exact same time!  The more activist natured of us want to change everything – whether it be the brand of coffee we use in the pot, or the kinds of toilet paper we use AT the ___. 🙂 Conversely, we go to great lengths to make sure that we are making our home groups as consistently welcoming as they can be – creating no barriers of any kind for that sick and suffering alcoholic who’s about to come through our doors.

Our willingness to look at the topic of Unity, Diversity and Inclusion today ALSO calls us to be willing to have the hard conversations.  We need to be willing to talk about those things that have long been a source of fear for so many of us.  We fear those things we don’t understand – so we don’t talk about them.  So, I have a question for you.  Show of hands, how many of you know the REAL source of our Third Tradition, the real source?  Years ago, I had the opportunity to listen to a recording of Barry L. when he spoke on “The Origin of the Third Tradition” at the 50th Anniversary Convention of Alcoholics Anonymous in Montreal in July 1985.  He talked about how Bill wrote in the 12×12 these words,“On the A.A. calendar it was Year Two. In that time, nothing could be seen but two struggling, nameless groups of alcoholics trying to hold their faces up to the light.  A newcomer appeared at one of these groups, knocked on the door and asked to be let in. He talked frankly with that group’s oldest member. He soon proved that his was a desperate case, and that above all he wanted to get well.  “But,” he asked, “will you let me join your group? Since I am the victim of another addiction even worse stigmatized than alcoholism, you may not want me among you. Or will you?”

Barry then talked about who that man was and what his other addiction even worse stigmatized than alcoholism was.  How many of you knew that our Third Tradition, that the only requirement for membership is a desire to stop drinking was built squarely on the back of a gay man?  We have been having this diversity conversation for years – and we need to continue to have it today.  Not just about gays, lesbians and transgendered members in the Fellowship, but also about accessibility issues for our otherly-abled members, for our young people (which are the future of our Society), for members in the armed services, and the list goes on ad infinitum.  We need to have these conversations at our Areas, our Districts and our home groups so that we are developing practices that help us remain a welcoming lot – or I suggest relevant.  (Side note: isn’t that what group inventories are, or should be used for?  Think about it!)

I found it interesting that when I looked up the definition of UNITY in the dictionary, it gave two very different definitions.  The first was, “the state or fact of being united or combined into one”, but the second was, “absence of diversity; unvaried or uniform character.”  By God’s grace, the Fellowship of A.A. has informally adopted the first definition.  Tradition 1 tells us this – “The unity of Alcoholics Anonymous is the most cherished quality our Society has. Our lives, the lives of all to come, depend squarely upon it. We stay whole, or A.A. dies. Without unity, the heart of A.A. would cease to beat.”  I love that the Traditions Checklist asks me to ask myself how I’M doing at that.  What am I doing to promote unity in the Fellowship of A.A.?  Am I allowing diversity and inclusion to be a part of A.A., or am I keeping my mouth closed in my group conscience and then campaigning against it outside the room to fellow members?

The diversity we already have in our Fellowship is one of our greatest assets.  Bill said it best when he said, “we are a group of people who would normally not mix.”  We’ve heard people say that a million times as a badge of honor, yet when given the opportunity to embrace that very same DIVERSITY– they find every GOOD reason why it shouldn’t be so.  But as Bill also said, “sometimes – the GOOD is the enemy of the best.”

One of the primary tenants and most key components of INCLUSION is lack of judgment – or the eradication of judgment.  I would suggest that in this conversation of unity, diversity and inclusion that were having here today – there are not just two “A’s” (A.A.), but that there are three.  For our society to get to a point where we are doing not just enough to get by, but where we are going to great lengths, greater lengths than what has gotten us here – to THIS day – we must begin acknowledging that inclusion truly does have three A’s:

We need to accept, adapt and adjust:

  • Accept that everything DOES happen in God’s world exactly like it’s supposed to…
  • Adapt to the ever changing face of the alcoholic walking through our doors… and
  • Adjust NOT the spiritual principles that got you and I to this point in our recoveries, but adjust our attitudes and beliefs that keep others from having that very same gift given to them.

So I’ll say it one last time –the capacity of Alcoholics Anonymous to accept change – has been central to its ability to remain relevant.  For us as a Society to remain relevant, we must be willing to open our hearts and minds to the possibility, the REALITY, that we are all different – AND – at the same time, all the same.  We are here for one purpose and one purpose only – to get, keep and give away this precious gift that has been so freely given to us.

So, I challenge each and every one of us in this room today – let us SPEAK unity, diversity and inclusion with our lips – and REALIZE unity, diversity and inclusion through our actions, so that never again does an alcoholic come to us and not feel a part of.

Thank you for allowing me the opportunity to be of service.

Our Group Finds It’s Home

On Friday, June 29, 2018, one of our founding members, Rick W., met with the staff at Center of Unity Church in Grapevine to see if they would be interested in hosting our new group.  After meeting with the church administrator (Mary), one of the pastors (Bill), and taking a tour of the facilities, it felt immediately like home.

Rick took it back to the other two founding members to see what they thought – and instantly, we all felt like it was the right decision.  The church sent us the contract that day for space rental and we signed it immediately.

We are so excited to call this amazing church our new home and they are happy to have us as well.  After letting the church know that the founding members were “all in,”, their exact words were, “We’re excited to hear that and to begin our relationship, which we know will be a long and happy one.”

We feel sure that our members, and anyone who attends a meeting in the space with us on Friday nights will feel the warmth and love of God ever present!

God is Good All The Time!

Where:   Center of Unity, 1650 Hughes Road Grapevine, TX 76051 (map)

History of Our Group

So, let me ask you a question….  as you’ve been making your way along your journey, have you ever thought or said to yourself, “I’m at that point in my recovery where I want more… I wanna go deeper”…  have you ever said that?

That’s exactly how the Get In The Car Group of A.A. in Grapevine, TX was born.

One of our founders, Rick W., was on a business trip in Oklahoma City and met a friend of his at his friend’s home group one evening.  That group was a Men’s Big Book study called the “Altered Boys” Group which meets at Chapel Hill UMC, 2717 W. Hefner Rd.

From the moment Rick entered that church, he had an overwhelming feeling of gratitude  for the greetings he received by the vast majority of the 75 men in attendance.  Each of those men had a big book in their hand (mostly falling apart),  smiles on their faces and a joyous heart that was palpable. The unique style and format of this meeting was unlike anything Rick had ever experienced to that point in his over 30 years of recovery.

The study was filled with shares by men who clearly knew our book, but more than that, had put into practical application the spiritual principles found in our program of action.  The love, generosity and humility in that meeting gave Rick a whole new understanding of “attraction rather than promotion.”

While there were many cool things that happened during that meeting, the most profound thing he experienced was at the end of the meeting.  As soon as the Lord’s Prayer was finished, every single one of those 75 men came to the center of the room, took a knee, put their hands on each others shoulders and put a member of their group who was taking his Third Step that night in the center of the room – and said his Third Step Prayer with him.  It was the most powerful thing  Rick had ever experienced IN an A.A. meeting.

He came back home and that experience stayed with him.  He started sharing it in his network (specifically with the two other founding members, Terry C. and Aaron P.).  Finally he was told, “Remember what our literature tells us, “WE CREATE THE FELLOWSHIP WE CRAVE.”  It was in that moment that the fire was ignited and other interested A.A. members started coming together to discuss the possibility with him. Lot’s of prayer, lots of conversations with respective sponsors happened, and on June 18, 2018; 13 members of A.A. (from various groups around the area) came together to begin the conversation.

God doing for the group what it couldn’t do for itself – everything started to unfold and on January 4, 2019 – the Get in the Car Group of A.A. will hold it’s first meeting at Center of Unity, 1650 Hughes Road Grapevine, TX 76051 (map).  We are grateful beyond measure to bring this deep and rich experience of the 12 Steps (Recovery), the 12 Traditions (Unity), and the 12 Concepts of World Service (Service) to Grapevine, TX.

May God continue to bless our journey as we share our program of action with the still suffering alcoholic.